Thursday, April 2, 2009

Love is Impossible

This morning during my quiet time I was reading Day 18 of The Love Dare. The title was, Love is Impossible.

I've been reading The Love Dare for a while, taking my time in completing each dare that is challenged to me. Although I am already very in love with my husband, The Love Dare has challenged me to take my love for him to a higher and more sacrificing level. I have also been given freedom through The Love Dare. Freedom to admit that it's ok and normal to not be "in love" or feel "in love" every day of my life.

Love is impossible for humans. At least unconditional love is. Just try to love someone each and every moment without getting angry or getting even. Without holding a grudge or feeling like you deserve more. Being patient and kind always. Just try it. You can't do it. Only God can. And that's why we have to have Him in us to love our husbands like God does.

Today's dare was to arrange a special dinner just for the 2 of us where I would listen to his heart. I asked him questions that probed into his inner feelings and dreams. He was so suprised when he got home. Dylan greeted him at his car and asked him to come inside. Hayley Grace took him by the hand and led him upstairs to our bedroom. There I had shrimp, cheese bread, wine, and candles on a table covered in a white tablecloth. We had music. And for about an hour and a half we just talked, laughed, and dreamed together. It was like meeting for dinner after work to unwind, only we did it at home. And the kids were so awesome. They reheated leftovers and ate together and left us alone. It was great.

I love my husband very much. And with God's help, I will continue to love and honor him all my life.

I dare you to love your husband.



Denise said...

I will take that dare and double dare you. Great challenge sista!

Lisa V said...

Thanks Melissa, you know I didn't think I needed to do the Love Dare. I watched Fireproof weeks ago and enjoyed it, but didn't think it was what our marriage needed. Then I saw the book on someone's shelf the other day and felt a little nudge. Now I see your post. The thing is, I'm slowly letting go of the fear to admit things may be a little off with my marriage. And I'm pondering what you said about it being ok to not to feel in love every day of every minute. I really never thought so. I just may need that Love Dare book after all.

Nicole Flynn said...

Thanks Melissa, I'll take that dare. I have been married for 13 years. I used to think that you didn't have to "work" on your marriage BUT as I have gotten older, and a little wiser it really does take a lot of work to keep a great marriage - GREAT. We have had our share of ups and downs but the last year we have really committed ourselves to working on our marriage. He is the the love of my life. And I thank God everyday that He has given us the strength to not give up.
Fireproof was an amazing movie and I want to get The Love Dare too and read that.
Thanks again for your words - they are encouragment.

Anonymous said...

I have to compliment you on the effort that you put forth to keep your marriage going. What a sweet wife you are, I WISH I had a husband to do things like this for, you really take your role as wife and partner seriously. Your husband is a lucky man.

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